Sep 30, 2015

From what I've seen teen years are just not a good time period to have a serious relationship. People are growing up/maturing, meeting new people, making new friends, concentrating on school, participating in sports, looking/applying to colleges, partying etc. It's such a hectic/chaotic time period in our lives that a serious relationship can get in the way of many things. Like you said, I don't think it's right that she waited so last minute to tell you but at the same time she probably did that because she didn't want to hurt you. Due to how long you guys were together, it's going to be tough to get over but like others have said life does go on. Focus on your goals, reach out to other friends, look at this as an opportunity rather than the end of something.

I'm currently dating someone 2 years younger than me, we've been dating for about 5 months now & we're kind of experiencing a similar problem already. I'm in my 1st year of college so I'm not extremely busy but she's a junior in highschool & is taking numerous AP classes while trying to maintain higher than a 3.5 GPA, she's on 2 soccer teams & not to mention our friend groups are entirely different. The relationship is already getting in the way of things we both want to do & we're both starting to come to that realization. My point is that, it's hard to maintain a relationship at this age with so many things going on.

 

Sep 29, 2015

This. Whenever I went through some s--- I just went back to doing what I love, and that's making music and listening to it. You can definitely use this to put some more emotion back behind your works, plus it'll be taking your mind off of everything when you're in the producer zone

 

Sep 29, 2015

Same s--- happened to me almost to a T. I'd tell you it gets better, but that's almost a lie. It took me almost 4 years to get back to normal. (I have really bad anxiety, and would worry about her being with other guys and etc)

My one piece of advice would be to not play games about getting back together if she decides her feelings are mixed and sort of wants you, sort of doesn't. If that happens give her an ultimatum, either she's with you, or no more contact with you. If you allow her to be half with you then you'll just end up being worse off in the long run.

 

Oct 3, 2015

Few days before we broke up she had a doctors appointment re: anxiety she's had for a year plus. I even had to call and book the s--- for her because she was too nervous to do it herself. I stayed in the waiting room of course but when she came out she had a prescription for Ativan, a blood work paper, and was supposed to rebook after her results came back. Her doctor had plans to put her on a daily anti depressant (SSRI). In the end she chose to say "f--- it" to all of that and isn't willing to get any treatment. She "wasn't ready" (meaning, her mental health problems made her extremely uncomfortable/nervous/apprehensive about getting help). Few days later she breaks it off. It was getting to the point where she was always feeling depressive in her down time, and I think it became so bad that not even I could make her feel better anymore. So she started going to parties. Not that she hadn't before, she has, but it was usually infrequent. I'm starting to think that she can only let loose and feel happy when she's getting drunk at parties with a bunch of high school kids. She's in a pretty fragile state of mental health to be frequenting substance use (alcohol, weed. not sure if she's getting into anything else) to feel something. It's hard not to feel responsible. She's from a good home with a stable and healthy family. I went through something similar years ago and would've killed someone to have a stable support system like she is capable of having, but she's stuck in the denial/embarrassment phase of her anxiety s---.

It's a tough situation to standby and watch b. I've been thinking about her state of mind more so than my own since the break up.

 

Sep 29, 2015

No kissing after oral

 

Oct 1, 2015

Genuinely hope you come out better from this LasiK.

I've never experienced a relationship break up myself but I'd imagine it'd be painful.

 

Sep 29, 2015

Keep ya head up!