Nov 9, 2016

I have no problem "taking an L". I'm just like...too old to get proud about this sort of thing lol. Particularly because what happened was such a massive upset. Not in the popular vote (Hillary won by a margin the polls indicated she would) - but in the electoral college (I don't think there was a single poll that ever had Trump leading in Wisconsin...perhaps Michigan as well). I believed the polls were correct. They generally have been correct in my lifetime. There wasn't any reason to believe that my thought process was misguided - but at the end of the day it was! I was wrong. @lordkimura - as I've addressed, you got it right.

My bigger worry, obviously, is with the country as a whole. This is not just some typical loss where I think my guy was better than your guy. I was not enamored with Hillary Clinton; I had strong desire for a candidate with less baggage, better messaging, and a more genuine nature. But she was undoubtedly qualified, capable, intelligent, and (in my eyes) right on many issues.

On the other hand, we have President Elect Donald Trump.

This is a man who consistently bullies others (see his Twitter account).
This is a man with overwhelming arrogance (he constantly boasts of his own greatness).
This is a man proud of his own ignorance (his lack of policy understanding is well documented).
This is a man with many outgoing accusations of fraud and sexual assault (he will be in court later this month). The latter accusations corroborate HIS OWN WORDS, btw.
This is a man who consistently pits Americans against each other (threats to deport Mexicans; threats to ban Muslims), often in ways that relate to their skin color or heritage.
This is a man totally intolerant of dissent (some of the threats he has made regarding journalists and free speech are among the most terrifying to me personally).
This is a man with reckless disregard for norms (he admits he plans to abandon our allies; he embraces war crimes casually).
This is a man who sees no place for civility (he threatened to jail one opponent; he called another opponent's wife ugly).
This is a man who lies, constantly, unapologetically - about big things (his support for the Iraq War), small things (his characterization of Obama's treatment of a protestor), and everything in between.

These are all very bad traits if I'm looking to hire a part-time intern to fetch me coffee. They're horrific for a president of the United States. I can only hope that he has been acting as an entertainer and the gravity of the office changes him. There are signs that he could be pragmatic on policy (embrace for infrastructure spending; some support for entitlements in unexpected ways) - but I worry the GOP-controlled Congress will stifle that.

I saw this described somewhere as a "primal scream" of an election - a message that the establishment isn't representative of the views of the electorate. I find that hard to square with Barack Obama's 56% approval rating, but I can still comprehend it, even if I disagree with it. What I find harder to get is that THIS man, this person with so many personal failings and flaws as a leader, is the one people saw as the solution. He had countless chances to demonstrate fitness for office throughout the campaign and he failed....often, and spectacularly. We will all be grappling with what this means for a long time, myself included. Anyone who says they know what the next four years looks like is lying to you. And I hope and pray he surprises me as POTUS just like he surprised me last night. But when I contemplate the man he has shown himself to be in the campaign, and the challenges that lie ahead, I have never been more scared for the future of my country.

 

Jan 29, 2015

That's me saluting soon-to-be-famous rapper named Bas.

 

Sep 14, 2015

As a Tinder vet, I've wanted to write this for a while.

JFK's thoughts on Tinder:

• Probably my favorite app. It's entertainment.
• The app gets a bad reputation for its hookup culture, but I truly think it's an extremely efficient way to meet people.
  
• It can be used purely for entertainment purposes, to find your future spouse, or (gasp) hook up.
• Everyone has romantic intent. It removes the friction of awkward interactions. It's easy to stand out.
  
• People say claim the Yes/No action is superficial, but I can honestly learn more about a woman & her personality based on wittiness in responses, conversation skills, and ability to appear intelligent.
  
• With moments, Tinder has gradated from a simple dating app to it's own social network.
  
• Beware of extremely attractive girls who use Tinder to stroke their ego. These are my least favorite people on Tinder.
• Tinder is different depending on location. Girls in Nashville were much more open to meeting right away than Kansas City.
• I've gotten numbers just from using emojis. It's a fun game.
• However, I hate getting phone numbers unless I want to seriously meet. I forget who these girls are if their pictures aren't next to our messages.
  
• I'm best/most creative with Tindering after a few beers. Buzzed JFK is a casanova.
• Roughly half of my Snapchat friends are Tinder girls. Snapchat is a great was to continue the conversation and mass message girls.
• I've met some great people through Tinder.

JFK's Tinder tips (pre-match):

• Be good looking.
• Your first picture should be just of you. Semi-close up of your face. Don't look like a serial killer. 90% of the time, girls don't look at your profile or other photos. This one needs to count. Look f---ing cute.
• Other pictures should include any of the following: a full body shot, an athletic shot, a hobby, pictures with friends, pictures with other girls, picture in a suit/shirt & tie, picture with a dog. Don't include: picture with babies, picture with wife, drunk pictures, stupid photoshopped pictures, memes, etc. Each picture should convey a talking point and present the most attractive version of yourself.
• Your bio should be short, but needs to hit a few points: You need to display high self worth while being witty at the same time. Maybe include your profession & location if it's something to be proud of. My bio is "I have both a savings account and a Netflix account. Design + KC".
• If a girl messages me first (hardly ever, but I don't really give them a chance), it's either something about Netflix, my smile, or a funny picture I have with my friends in matching shirts. If a girl messages me "Hey how are you", it's a red flag. So boring.
• Be selective. Don't swipe right on ugly or fat girls. You'll regret it later.
• A girl's attractiveness level inversely correlates with her willingness to hook up.
  
• A girl's attractiveness level directly correlates with your effort in standing out. Hot girls match with EVERY guy they swipe right on, and EVERY one of those guys is trying their hardest to get in her pants. Be creative.
• 30% of the accounts I see on Tinder are spam, report them and make Tinder a better place.
• Beware of transexuals on Tinder. They don't always specify on their profile. DANGER!
• Don't match with too many girls at once. It becomes overwhelming.
• Don't abuse Tinder moments. I post one every couple of weeks and it's usually something cool I'm doing rather than a bathroom selfie.
• Be good looking.

JFK's Tinder tips (post-match)

• ALL girls are using Tinder for entertainment first and foremost. Your job is to entertain them above all else.
• At all times, try to message her when she's online. It'll usually say "Active X minutes ago". Evening is also a good messaging time.
• Message first. Almost zero girls start conversations.
• DO NOT OPEN WITH "HEY" OR "HOW ARE YOU" OR "YOU'RE SO PRETTY"
• Unless she has something great you can reference in her profile, find a good opener and stick to it. It should be short and creative. It should evoke a response. Maybe a question. Maybe a harsh statement. You should stand out.
• "Let's elope" is my go-to opener. Gets a positive response nearly 100% of the time. From there, we usually plan our fake elopement and eventually graduate to real conversation. It's simple. It's harmless. It's entertaining. It's easy to respond to. It's creative without implying I spent too much effort on typing a paragraph. I've been told many times it's the best line they've ever received.
• For the love of Yeezus, USE PROPER GRAMMAR AND SPELLING. Your intelligence level is literally measured by your ability to use there, their, and they're.
• Don't use too many emojis, if any at all.
• Keep the conversation light. Keep it playful. Poke jabs at her. Don't be a nice guy. Evoke responses. Put creativity into every message.
• Keep your messages concise. Nobody has time to read a book.
• Keep it sexual, but don't get too dirty either. Instead of sexual acts, I always suggest cuddling instead. Sex is implied. Always keep the sexual talk backhanded. "Fine, we can cuddle for a bit but I'm making a pillow wall between us". Instead of asking her to sleep with me, I tell her she can sleep on the couch or the porch. Being forward/oversexualizing is better than not bringing it up, but too crazy will scare half your matches off. Doing it backhanded covers both sides and helps you figure out what kind of girl you're dealing with.
• Make her sell herself to you.
• Don't be hypnotized by attractiveness. If she sucks at messaging, she probably sucks in real life.
• Don't send too many messages in a row. If she isn't responding, be patient. Nothing worse than a needy Tinderer.
• Good conversation topics: Your future wedding, Her job, Your job as a "professional underwear model", Netflix, Reason they're on Tinder, Alcohol, Creating a fake reason as to why you met, etc.
• Instead of asking her boring interview questions, start making assumptions. "You look like a nurse", "You don't look like you're from around here", "Do you live near downtown?". This gives you multiple things to talk about with each question.
• If she hasn't responded in a week, I usually say "Well you really dropped the ball on this conversation", or "You missed our flight" (if we were talking elopement earlier).
• Responding to moments with a simple heart-eyes emoji can work wonders.
• If you absolutely want to meet, get her number quickly. Simply say "3135553011 Tinder sucks, text me". Graduating from Tinder to her digits is a big step. You're not longer a random dude from Tinder. You're in her life. You can also use their number to become Snapchat or Facebook friends.
• I hardly EVER give out my number first. It's a little needy. I enjoy using Tinder to message unless I really want to meet. When they offer their number, I always say "You can expect a text within 3-5 business days". When I text them I say "Good news, your text has been delivered early"
• Use Snapchat to your advantage.
• A technique I've fell into is chatting A LOT immediately after matching, then suddenly becoming more and more unavailable after getting their number. They usually start begging to meet me. I don't really do this on purpose, I just lose interest quickly and don't have much time to actually take these girls out.
• When you do ask them out, suggest drinks. Not dinner. Beware of girls asking you to take them to dinner. Sit at the bar, make her feel comfortable, touch her thigh, shoulder, and back. Make her laugh. Do your thing.
• If you're meeting her out at the bars, ask her to buy you a drink.
• If that's too much effort (not a lot of girls are worth leaving the house for), invite her over/go to her place for wine/drinks. "Netflix & chill" is a real thing.
• If you're done talking to these girls, don't "break up" with them. You were never official. Slowly stop responding until you're both on the same page. Some people hate it, but it's effective and keeps you two on good terms.
• Be good looking.

You can thank me later.

 

May 15, 2016

 

Jun 9, 2015

Congratulations @CharlieWork !

I went through a very similar experience when i told a friend i was a young thug fan

 

Jan 28, 2016

If you think the movement is racist, you don't understand the movement. "Black lives matter" isn't suggesting that "white lives DON'T matter". It's suggesting that the system treats black lives with less respect than white lives, and that needs to stop. It's a response to a perceived injustice towards blacks, not some sort of "black power" agenda. Opponents of the movement hear "Black lives matter only", but what they should be hearing is "Black lives matter also".

Changing the argument to "all lives matter" is such a bs bait-and-switch, because how could you possibly argue that all lives matter? No one argues that, of course they do - but that totally misses the point and distracts from the problem at hand

 

Aug 21, 2016

sometimes when i post i get 0 likes

 

Sep 25, 2016

 

Nov 13, 2017

I don't get any ladies in general but I'm definitely open to getting rejected by any race

 

Oct 7, 2016

Lmfao grab her by the p----

 

Oct 17, 2015

its hard being a plus member man

 

Oct 4, 2015

what are your moments?

for me, when i was like 13-14...we were playing a football match and my friend scored a goal..so we were celebrating at the corner and i swear to god..for some reason both of us at the exact same time pushed our pelvis forward and our d----s did a high five to each others...made zero sense...and no idea how we both did it at the same time...so f---in weird

we didnt talk for months

 

Sep 29, 2015

I met a girl in august 2013, a month before i started grade 12. we hit it off and started dating pretty quickly. fast foward two years and things are great. sex life is great, communication is great, love life is great. we have never had a serious fight the entire time we've been together. lots of laughs and her family made me feel more at home than i've ever felt before.

she's a few years younger than me, so when I was starting grade 12 she was beginning the 10th. relatively young, but we both seemed to have been thru some s--- and had a mutual understanding of what we wanted out of a relationship with each other.

she started her senior year of high school at the beginning of the month and that's when things started changing. last night i got a call from her saying she felt as if the relationship was fizzling out. she wants to take a different direction with her life and the relationship was holding her back. completely blindsided me, but i like to think i have a fair understanding of life and respect an individuals desires and needs.

been going thru a whirlwind of emotions since last night. i felt like she could've been the one i lasted years with due to how everything fell into place so effortlessly. unsure of the direction to take my life from here. i haven't felt this lost since i was 15 and my dad died.

 

Apr 7, 2017

s80 doesnt pay me that well to be a mod so i still ride the bus /:

 

May 20, 2016

dew look like he could f--- your b---- if he wasn't a virgin

 

Dec 27, 2015

you came in with a breeeeeze on Sunday morning sure have change since yesterday without any warning I thought knew you, well, so well.

 

Jul 21, 2015

My respect for you couldn't be any bigger right now. You're legit awesome bro.

People have so many prejucides against people in wheelchairs and you're the perfect example of how wrong these prejudices are man.

Respect. Big respect.