Jan 31, 2016 Other than that I have no knowledge about dating or relationships and I'm in an unfortunate situation as well.
Jan 31, 2016 f--- lol well that sends mixed messages then... you're saying I should tell her now and give her an ultimatum on being in a LDR but also saying it's really unlikely that she'll want to do it??
Jan 31, 2016 why n----s out here telling op to drop hints? do u people actually enjoy the s-----y mindgames that come w adolescent relationships??
Jan 31, 2016 overanalyzing again. you dont need to give her anything even close to an ultimatum. dude it's just a conversation. suss it out see where it goes. don't even bother trying to pre-plan this s--- you have no idea how its going to go. and you won't until you just call her.
Jan 31, 2016 op u should just call her right now before u p---- out and start thinking about things too deeply again confessing ur emotions shouldnt sound like ur reading from notes
Jan 31, 2016 I'm an adolescent High school relationships are different than what I'm going to go through in college No need to be so hostile, give me time to grow up and continue having my unrealistic opinions
Jan 31, 2016 It seems like this is the consensus and honestly it may be the best way to go, but I have no clue how I'm even going to start the conversation moving in that direction. It's gonna be jarring no matter what I try to do, I suppose. Fuuuck
Jan 31, 2016 you're right its 100% the man's choice whether or not you have sex women have no say in the matter whatsoever
Jan 31, 2016 bro literally call her w the purpose of telling her how u feel. dont take the discussion there after a bit of chitchat. just get straight to the point
Jan 31, 2016 just go for it worst case she says no and s--- becomes awk and yall drift apart which is still better than being the friendzone guy for the rest of your life (or more realistically until you drift apart a few years later)
Jan 31, 2016 just call her up and dont be a cornball. its just a regular person dude like any other conversation. he didn't mean r--- her, skippy
Jan 31, 2016 Pretty much. Like I said in my earlier post having a bit of history, and the fact you guys spoke about getting together before, might work in your favour. And if she says that she is missing you, maybe she wants to give it a chance now that she is single to have answers to any earlier 'what could have been' thoughts. In my life I wouldn't do it. But I dont have a situation like yours so she could feel very different. LDRs are all about communication. So start now, communicate with her, tell her whats up, because you will have to express every doubt and conflict that pops into your head during the time apart otherwise it gets too overwhelming and pointless to be doing anyway. Just see where she is at, let her know you dont want to ruin the friendship and no pressure on her. She may be interested, she may not like the idea, she could want to wait until you are back. It can go so many ways but if you dont put it out there the chances of you being able to get in at all by the time you are back will be extremely slim.
Jan 31, 2016 He literally said the choice to have sex is entirely up to the man That's the kind of mentality that leads to r---
Jan 31, 2016 d--- it, okay. You guys have convinced me to do it. It's only 11 AM back home so I'll probably wait until later tonight to call her. Thanks a lot for helping talk me through this @theg @Mimi @Caslon @K9l. Seriously helpful and I appreciate it a lot. I'll post updates in the thread once we've talked.
Jan 31, 2016 he literally didn't say that though he said be physical/sexual, nowhere did he say anything about forcing sex on anyone. that means make actual physical contact with the girl (i.e don't hover hand, dont be afraid to put your hand on her like you would any other person) and make your intentions known if you want to persue sex with that person. if you are afraid to make physical contact with that person and you dont make your intentions known then yeah you're kinda putting yourself in the "friend zone" there
