Feb 1, 2016 I think it's too late tbh. Men and women don't think the same way. Once a girl sees you as a friend, there's not much you can do besides moving on and learning from your mistakes. At this point, trying to be flirtuous with her would be awkward and will probably turn her off. I've had a similar type of situation with a girl when i was 16. I wasn't as confident and i never made a move when i should have. The best thing i did was to move on. My best advice to you is if this doesn't work out and she doesn't seem interested in a relationship with you, move on. Being friends with a girl you are attracted to when the feeling is not mutual is pointless and is only going to make you suffer.
Feb 1, 2016 theres always the chance for rejection lol, u just gotta man up and get it over with. just make sure to tell her that u dont wanna ruin what u have w her rn and u two will be able to stay friends most likely even if she says no.
Feb 1, 2016 Yeah @furface long distance relationship or not, the fact that you guys talked about hooking up, she spends the night with you and you DON'T hook up, should tell you a lot. I know you said you didn't care about her hooking up with guys but the fact that the friendship fizzled is the second sign that it's probably not gonna happen. Truth of the matter is, she most likely was really into you at some point and was probably waiting for to you to be more aggressive. Females can have a short attention span when it comes to who they like, so while you're nice guy role was admirable, the slow play bored her and she moved on.You shouldn't be trying to wife up a girl who stopped being your friends to f--- around w/ other guys anyway. Don't beat yourself up too much though, happens to the best of us. All you can do now is learn from it so that you're prepared next time you're in a similar situation.
Feb 1, 2016 I got all the answers... I've been with A LOT of women in my life to know you can make the first move, and go for it all..and it's still not enough.. even if she let you f--- if the girl isn't interested, she's not interested in being more than friends or friends with benefits.. bottom line women put you in the friend zone eventually, whether you make a move or not.. just the way it is
Feb 1, 2016 bro @furface i need you to be a thug and ask her out straight up next time you're back in the city
Feb 1, 2016 I don't know what to do anymore guys. I don't expect it to go the way I want it to go at this point but I feel like if I tell her and get rejected I could move on easier. Then especially if I can find someone else to distract me we could potentially stay friends. I really do value her just as a friend, so if I can cut my romantic infatuation that's probably just the best thing to do.
Feb 1, 2016 Bro, do yourself a favor and just tell her, preferably over Skype. This back and forth with the fretting and the wondering is only going to make things harder on you as the days go by. Ask her and see what's up. Be comfortable with yourself and know that even if you get rejected, it doesn't mean anything other than at that time she doesn't have romantic feelings for you. Now feelings can get tricky and make it muddy for you, but that's why you have to be a bit brave here. After you ask you can deal with the consequences. Remember, statistically speaking you're not even in the prime of your life yet. Whatever romantic pain you may face will go away and there will be other people to meet and have good relationships with. Just don't be afraid of those moments or else you'll be stuck worrying too much and asking a bunch of strangers in a hip-hop centered forum what you should be doing.
Feb 1, 2016 lol thanks for the advice and trust me I'm conscious of the fact that I'm asking about this on a hip-hop centered forum but honestly I just wanted to get relatively quick feedback on my specific situation from multiple people, and in my short time here people have seemed pretty chill so I figured it was worth a shot. And it's been helpful too. I only have a few close friends that I would feel comfortable talking about the subject with and I would have to talk to them all individually since I'm overseas so this just seemed practical.
Feb 1, 2016 lol gotcha, and I understand. I was just being tongue-in-cheek anyways with that. Just take a chance and be confident in yourself. There's no use in living life going about it in any other manner.
