Serious Need advice on going from friends to lovers

Started by furface, Jan 31, 2016, in Life Add to Reading List

  1. furface
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    furface

    Feb 1, 2016
    bracing myself for that but trying to be optimistic
     
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  2. Thad Castle
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    Thad Castle dafuq u sayin

    Feb 2, 2016
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    you really aint got teh answers bleed
     
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  3. Chigzzer
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    Chigzzer Man's on that grind

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    Want my 2 cents?
     
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  4. Mikey
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    Feb 2, 2016
    Being friends with her for so long u surely would know whether she likes u more than just a friend.
     
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  5. Ordinary Joel
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    Ordinary Joel Happiness begins when selfishness ends

    Feb 2, 2016
    I'm no expert but this sounds like a half-arsed attempt.
     
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  6. Mimi
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    Mimi the art of doing nothing

    Feb 2, 2016
    Totally reasonable to think that. If you came at her now with it she might be pretty overwhelmed that all her guy friends are seeing her in this light, but on the other hand she shouldnt s--- where she eats. I'm guessing she didnt lay boundaries down with this guy stating it was just for fun.
    Maybe just give it a few weeks to let it blow over with this guy and just play it by ear.

    Be in her life, talk to her often so she knows you are there. Sorry the whole thing became just that little bit more difficult and confusing for you =/
     
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  7. Mimi
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    Mimi the art of doing nothing

    Feb 2, 2016
    I'm sorry but you are soooooooooo wrong.
    As a woman let me tell you - I dont even know what I want, I dont know what other women want.
    We are confusing creatures and you are playing yourself if you think you do know.



    The good thing is you are a train ride away from the easiest, skankiest lays you will be able to find.
     
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  8. Raziel
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    Raziel Ice like Paul Wall but I can't take mine out

    Feb 2, 2016
    @furface My girlfriend is my best friend. Every successful relationship I've had has started out as nothing more than friendships. If you want there to be more YOU need to establish that from very early on to avoid being friend zoned. The longer you wait the less they think you're interested; and that doesn't take long btw
     
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  9. furface
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    furface

    Feb 2, 2016
    sure why not

    EDIT: As long as you're not just gonna be a d-ck or something. If your advice is to move on just say that lol
     
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    furface

    Feb 2, 2016
    Are you talking about Glasgow? :lmaooo:

    Also, you're correct. From the way she described the whole ordeal to me, she absolutely did not communicate with him the boundaries of the relationship before they got started. Apparently they've already hooked up a couple times and she just assumed it was all superficial, but then the last time they did the guy said weird s--- about their kids would be beautiful and they should drop out and get married or something. And she said she felt like he kept almost saying "I love you" but changing it at the last moment. She was pretty put off by that lol but still wants to be friends because he's a good guy (I'm friends with him as well).
     
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    Mimi the art of doing nothing

    Feb 2, 2016
    I was talking about England but the one chick that I did know from Scotland would have probably f----- anyone that looked her way so close enough [​IMG]
     
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  12. Thad Castle
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    Thad Castle dafuq u sayin

    Feb 2, 2016
    wanna hook up
     
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  13. Mimi
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    Mimi the art of doing nothing

    Feb 2, 2016
    Trust me, you dont want it.



    *edit* are you talking bout the scottish girl?
    Cos my answer is a straight up NO
     
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    Chigzzer Man's on that grind

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    Nah it isn't. The fact is my girl for a year now used to be my best friend and once called me her Bro. I was the guy she always told everything to, she knew I liked her and still told me about her new bf, dates eg. All I have to offer is, stick in there, stay her friend and always be there for her. Hopefully she will see sense and realise how much of a blessing you are. That's Al I did and it worked for me.

    Edit : I would tell her you like her but would suggest face to face rather than text
     
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    [​IMG]

    Something like this right:allears:
     
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    Mimi the art of doing nothing

    Feb 2, 2016
    Looks about right.
     
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  17. Michael Myers
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    Sure this is meant to mock women but understanding them is really not easy lol
     
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  18. Mimi
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    Mimi the art of doing nothing

    Feb 2, 2016
    It's true though, it goes along with the joke of asking "what wrong"
    answer - "nothing" *giving the cold shoulder, arms crossed while huffing and puffing*
    "..okay.."

    and then book of reasons come out.


    I was talking about this with another chick last week, how we do things, let ourselves get emotional, the way we act in certain situations and then when we are finished are just like "wtf, what was that? who was that?!"
    We are beautiful messes.
     
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  19. Michael Myers
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    Truee lol I experienced that for 4 years.

    Beautiful messes is a great, short discription!
     
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    Thad Castle dafuq u sayin

    Feb 2, 2016

    :what22:
    whos the scottish girl and how much do u weigh
     
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