Nov 3, 2015

that's good to hear.. i love f---ing my brother

 

Nov 3, 2015

there is that too..when the circle reaches brother...you dont necessarily NEED to f--- anymore, you would be like "my hand doesnt talk" so you rather rub one out

 

Nov 3, 2015

koolo's wife looking @ this thread like

 

Nov 3, 2015

she is literally bitchig about something to me and im nodding and literally cant catch a single word she is saying

ugh girls

 

Nov 3, 2015

 

Nov 3, 2015

To answer the question at hand, so far it is no different at all - but we also have lived together for 6 months. I feel like moving in together is the big adjustment...marriage itself is just a formality really

 

Nov 3, 2015

I think that there are a lot of influences that cause people to divorce that are not legitimate. It really stems from people's in ability to deal with probability.

What people should do when they get married is assume 100% that that's the person they will always be with. After all, that is exactly what they're saying when they take a vow. You're not saying, "I will remain married to you until we have irreconcilable differences." Of course the immediate response is all the many examples of people who who divorce for "legitimate" reasons.

To people who are already divorced: you will have a hard time being objective about this because you are human and influenced by choice-supportive bias -- you're not about to admit that you could have saved your marriage if you've already divorced, regardless if it's true.

This is not to say that divorce is never an option, and therein lies the rub. Because there are legitimate situations in which divorce is valid, people assume those situations apply to them. But the odds are against you that you will ever run into a legitimate case. The odds are, you are considering divorce when you should be working on your marriage.

So how do you avoid this? Well, first of all, you need to marry someone who of like-mind. Talk to the person. Is the person's parent divorced? You might want to understand that situation better. Children from broken homes may either be influenced that divorce is "normal" or may counter significantly to never divorce because their experience made them realize they don't want to go through that. So the first rule is to find someone who agrees with what seems to be a more narrow view-point these days, which is that one should marry for life.

The simple tool you can use is that you think of your spouse as family, not someone you married. What I mean is, just like your brother or sister doesn't stop being your brother and sister, it's the same with your spouse.

Why is this important? Because when you're in it forever, then you think differently about solving problems. You don't accumulate anger or resentment in order to justify some future split-up. When you don't give yourself a choice, you work with the choice that you made. However, it is not at all as grim as it sounds.

To Men, you have to understand that women don't think the same way as you do, no matter how equal they may be. Your woman wants to see you as someone she can rely on, to be her rock. If you truly love her, and put her needs before your own, she will return it ten-fold. That's right, if she knows you have her best interest at heart at all times, she will be more loyal to you than anyone has ever been, and will stand by you no matter what. Women are generally not predisposed to seek a different mate. They're wired to remain with the same man for as long as they can. So you have that advantage. When your woman seems unreasonable and emotional, just remember that those are the same attributes that make her caring and nurturing, and why she'll not leave your sorry-a--- even if you deserve it.

To Women, honestly your job is a lot harder. It just is. Men can be difficult, which is the reason you have the DNA to be unequivocally committed. But you have to understand what makes a man tick. We are simple creatures. Keep our stomachs full and balls empty, as they say. But all joking aside, I've come up with five pills that you're just gonna need to learn to swallow:
Five Rules of Marriage for Women
1. You and husband should always put each other's needs first. Do things for him before he asks, and he should do the same.

2. Never deny each other sex.. don't buy into the whole "i have a headache" routine, or you're "not in the mood". Especially when you're upset with him and you don't feel like being intimate. It's easy to justify, but don't deny him sex. It will lead to problems. The shy girl can't say she wants sex. So she can use a sign. If she wants sex, she'll pull on his penis once. If she doesn't want sex, she'll pull on his penis a 100 times. They say "never go to bed angry".. partly because when you're angry with each other, it's hard to be intimate. So before going to bed, resolve whatever problems you have.

if you break rule #2 for any reason, and he cheats on you, don't assume you had no part in that. Harsh truth.

3. Have a life with each other, but also without each other. Have common interests and do things together. But also have friends that you have only for yourself.. Have a hobby that doesn't involve him. If you are working, then keep working, if that's your thing. actually spend time apart, even when you're in the same house. Take on intense hobbies, with your friends, without him. You'll have more to talk about with each other when you are later together, and you won't drive each other crazy 'cause you're always together.

4. Since you love the person you've married, show an interest in his interests. You may have to force yourself to spend time with each other doing things you would otherwise never do. A lot of couples when deciding on a mutual activity, pick things that interest both. For instance, let's say that you like romantic movies, and he likes action movies.. so you look through the list of movies to find one you both like, and you compromise to make both sides happy. That's okay, but don't compromise every time. Because if you do, you don't get to know the other person. Instead, alternate using The rule of Three. First pick a movie you both want to see. Second time, pick a movie only you would have picked on your own. Third time, see a movie only he would have picked on his own. Make it a regular thing. Why would you want to go see a movie you don't want to see? Because it's a movie the love-of-your-life wants to see, so see it through his eyes, and get to know him better. I knew one couple where she made her conservative husband go to a punk-concert because they were following this rule. He did not like that idea at all, but the next day he said it was the best time he's had in years. So yeah, this may mean you might have to go fishing with him on occasion. It's a way for couples to connect.

Rule 4 helps balance out Rule 3.

5. Stay hot. Don't let yourself go. Seriously. Just because you're married, doesn't mean it's time to get out of shape. You should look like someone they'd proud to show off. This isn't about being fat or skinny. It's about being active, in shape, whatever that means to you. Also, you'll have confidence, be a happier person. If other girls are paying attention to him, rather than be jealous, just think, "well duh.. I got a good man. of course there's always gonna be b------s around him. but he comes home to me"

word
-- gangsta

 

Nov 3, 2015

 

Nov 3, 2015

Congratulations!

 

Nov 4, 2015

It's learning how to let go of things that normally you'd be all pissed about in your youth. Picking your battles, but not getting too passive to the point where she's bored.

It's about learning how to bite your tongue and forgiveness. It's about weathering tough periods knowing that things get better (especially with multiple kids involved)

So really you could never imagine or compare it to boyfriend/girlfriend stage.