Feb 15, 2026 at 3:53 AM I saw her last night as she was dropping off letters she wrote to me. We hugged and cried. She was asking for another chance. Says she knows it will be different this time and she knows I'm the one. I told her I cannot believe that. That it would be good for a week or month and things would restart. She swears that wont happen, that she now knows losing me is not an option. I let her go, both in tears, but I'm not even sure I believe myself. Nothing easier for me than to give another chance. I am sort of on autopilot where "no" is the answer, but I lost why I'm saying it.
Feb 15, 2026 at 7:31 AM Wow, I’m proud of you. A lot of men would’ve folded in that situation. She’s really trying hard to get you back.
Feb 15, 2026 at 9:17 AM lol! Yeah it's not something I'll ever forget. Thank you for saying that, I am mostly humbled and grateful. I still don't really understand how I escaped alive. A good friend who was trying to kick with me died, left rehab and overdosed the same night. He was so young. It helps to remember how bad it was. Describing detox was a potent reminder, so thank you for asking. I've been doing g well for a pretty long while so it's easy to forget what got me sober. There's a slippery slope I would always hit of "well was it ever really THAT bad? maybe I could do it better now, I know how to co trial myself, I can handle it this time." That's what cost me the first 14 years. Apologies for not responding for real to this yesterday. Remembering all of this stuff is not fun or easy so I hit a boundary. And you're very welcome, too. If any of that experience supplies a little insight into anything to anyone else, I'm always glad.
Feb 15, 2026 at 9:28 AM You don't have to be perfect or have all the answers... follow your gut, you made this move for good reasons. If you do hold your ground, she may spiral some and make a mess for herself, maybe end up in trouble. If she does (emotional triggers, mourning the loss of the relationship), it's on her and nobody can fix it if she won't. Hopefully seeing how her decisions involving drinking and loss work will help her some way.
