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  1. Poohdini
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    Oct 3, 2017
    Being honest about what you want doesn't make you a douche. In my experience girls always prefer to know what your intentions are.

    If I was in your position, I'd chill with her again BEFORE telling her what I want out of it, unless she asks you in the time between ya'll next hangout. This way you can get another read on her before putting all your cards on the table.

    Also this should go without saying but keep building up that roster while you're back at college.
     
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  2. K18 El Duderino
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    K18 El Duderino Welcome to the Dopamine Dome

    Oct 3, 2017
    Its a risk you gotta take. The only thing holding you back is fear. The fear of rejection is diluting your vision. Take that fear out of the equation and you can do literally anything you want. Just jump into the unknown and see where it takes you bruh. Put your nikes on next date and JUST DO IT
     
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  3. Poohdini
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    Sep 26, 2017
    I would say you guys just seem like good friends.

    If it's really bothering you and you don't mind risking your friendship then man up and tell her how you feel/describe the vibes you been getting from her.

    My advice would be to leave it and pursue other girls.
     
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  4. Versace Python
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    Versace Python

    May 16, 2017
    #1 Relationship Advice:

    Don't have one.
     
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  5. Future Vandross
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    Future Vandross

    Mar 10, 2017
    should also mention the excessive use of emojis lmao.

    i f---in cringed at that "what iphone do you have" and that f---in last text :dead:
     
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  6. Future Vandross
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    Future Vandross

    Mar 10, 2017
    woah, you're texting a lot man. You should only text to set up dates. She said something about good cupcakes at a place, i'd ask her out right there, perfect opportunity.
    i'd say something like: "Really? Now i'm craving cupcakes, gonna go there tomorrow, wanna come with?"
    And just like that. She seemed down to hang out and she was interested. You texted too much and you were needy.
     
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  7. Future Vandross
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    Future Vandross

    Mar 10, 2017
    90% of the time they don't have a bf. You'll never know if you never approach.
    I'd rather ask her and get rejected instead of passing up on the opportunity and regretting that later.
     
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  8. Fire Squad
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    Fire Squad Boss Don Biggavel

    Mar 10, 2017
    Tell your squad you'll pay them back if not then they ain't yo squad

    But in all seriousness you really are gonna have to be at your most entertaining if you do go hang out and walk around. If you can smash in the end be very proud of yourself m8
     
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  9. Buu
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    Buu

    Mar 7, 2017
    Confidence really. Go to frat parties or upperclassmen parties. Chat up with them as if age & grade is just a number.

    Just have sauce and talk to them like they were just any other girl, not subject wise because most of them have jobs and bills and young adult things to worry about and you are focused on what new game to buy or other juvenile things they can't relate to.
     
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  10. DKC
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    DKC shortygonletmecrush

    Mar 7, 2017
    People have lives outside of tinder. I don't respond to every text I get from my friends, let alone random people.
     
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  11. Soldier
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    Soldier big cuntry's alias

    Mar 7, 2017
    bro save me @Mike Tyson. i got a hotel room for saturday night for me n this girl. what the f--- am i doing.
     
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  12. Mike Tyson
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    Mike Tyson big cuntry's alias

    Mar 7, 2017
    Honestly, this is not a shot, but just some perspective. Would you text an escort this hard?

    Once you got the number from her you were in. All you had to do was say let's chill, and it was a guaranteed splash. Do not make this type of small talk bro, you don't need to.
     
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  13. Deadpool
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    Deadpool the end

    Mar 7, 2017
    :dead:
     
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  14. Mike Tyson
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    Mike Tyson big cuntry's alias

    Mar 7, 2017
    whoa okay okay okay
     
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  15. Deadpool
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    Deadpool the end

    Mar 6, 2017
    :mjcry:us guys dont :mjcry:
     
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  16. Mike Tyson
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    Mike Tyson big cuntry's alias

    Mar 6, 2017
    Honestly brother, you might just have to feel out the vibe and s---t your shot in person.

    The social media version was just a fail safe version to mitigate rejection but if it's not available to you, I would just go for the classic.

    If the vibe is good, ask if she want's to chill sometime (up in the air, no timeline, nothing specific). Gauge her reaction, and if you feel like she really does want to kick it, then ask a few days later with something specific (date/place/activity).
     
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  17. Deadpool
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    Mar 3, 2017
    He's gay
     
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  18. Michael Myers
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    Mar 3, 2017
    Thanks bro. You have a non social media version as well?

    She works 3 days a week and we talk almost everyday she's there. Since I work there for 7 months now and she for 2 months now we do have a 'connection' since we are both new. I know what she is going through right now and when she has questions etc she mostly askes me (also because most people are much older and she is close to my age).

    I will continue this for a while and see how it goes. I do make conversations more funny though, and little less just about work.
     
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  19. Michael Myers
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    Mar 2, 2017
    Solo will probably jump in from time to time.
     
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  20. Fire Squad
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    Fire Squad Boss Don Biggavel

    Mar 2, 2017
    Since I went through the same s--- in high school (I'm guessing when I was your age) it's very simple; branch out to any other school. Before I had the whip I'd take the bus and meet up with some friends from those schools at the mall or in the city--from there you can make plans to further socialize.
     
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