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Started by rapmusik, May 20, 2015, in Life Add to Reading List

  1. rapmusik
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    May 20, 2015
    so today has been pretty s-----y. I found out that my girls been seeing some other dude for a few weeks... We've only been seeing each other for about 7 months but it f---ing hurts.

    Thing is, I didn't discover this on my own. No random person broke the news to me. She herself told me. She said we needed to talk and explained the whole situation.

    I've been cheated on before but they've never admitted to doing anything completely. They just apologize. But they wouldn't have apologized if I hadn't found out.

    So here's my dilemma. I don't know if I should cut things off or not. She had the decency to admit it to me but she still f----- around my back. What do you think I should do? Would appreciate legitimate, serious answers please... I'm honestly stuck on how to approach this
     
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  2. Nuredin B
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    May 20, 2015
    d--- thats tough
     
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  3. Bojack
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    May 20, 2015
    You d--- right it hurts..
    Even the thought of my ex touchin another mans crotch f---in hurts..
    If you want my opinion you should cut things off now and never bother with this b---- again..
    No matter how tough this is, be strong now even if it hurts, otherwise you will face this again in the future..
    I dont want to say this but honesty in this matter is like a f---in ash in your eyes..
    She did it once, she will again.. If she had real feelings for you she wouldnt even think of cheating..
    There is no reason at all to forgive her
     
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  4. Cyreides
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    May 20, 2015
    I'm sorry bruh.

    As for what to do, honestly, dump her a---. If she's cheated once, doesn't matter if she admitted it, she's probably gonna do it again and I don't think you can trust her.
     
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  5. Mild Bobby Sauce
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    Mild Bobby Sauce 3 apples tall

    May 20, 2015
    ok. So as somebody who has f----- up a relationship SERIOUSLY and managed to repair it,you gotta make some serious choices here and evaluate how you feel about her

    Is this a person that can honestly see yourself learning to trust again?
    Do you feel strongly enough for her to put another 7-9 months in trying to fix this at the bare minimum? Because betrayals like these hang in the air honestly forever and it takes serious time to jump those hurdles.
    Why did this girl cheat? Is there at least a semi-valid reason here? Did she find something in somebody else that you weren't giving her or did she just want a little new d-ck and excitement?
    Does she even still want to be with you? Is this her weak way of trying to leave, with her hoping that you'll be so angry that you break up with her.
    Theres so many more questions you gotta ask yourself man but honestly don't put the both of you through this if you aren't at least 90% sure that 1) you want to be with her 2) you can forgive her and 3) you believe she can change. Also, does SHE want to change? If not, theres nothing you can do. Sorry man.
     
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    May 20, 2015
    use this to picture her as desirable for outside of the box reasons as opposed to undesirable for the usual reasons
     
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  7. Packman
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    May 20, 2015
    If she's cheated, she's got to go
     
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    Mild Bobby Sauce 3 apples tall

    May 20, 2015
    Don't let rage and testosterone cloud your vision right now man, anything can be fixed if the feelings are strong enough. Just be honest with yourself
     
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  9. Oldboy
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    May 20, 2015
    ofc you cut her off lol

    f--- that c----
     
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  10. Kon
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    May 20, 2015
    Well s--- I just typed out a long post saying how you should consider giving her another chance if she's willing to not do it again since she was honest with you about it, but then I re read your post and saw this wasn't a one time thing, it had been going on for weeks. Kinda hard to trust her at that point then and she might even want you to break up with her imo but maybe she just doesn't want to do it herself, girls can be weird like that at times.

    I don't know, I guess what I'm saying is if it was a one time thing I'd be willing to give her another shot under these circumstances but since it had been going on for weeks, probably not..But do what you feel is right, if you have strong feelings for her then maybe it's at least worth having a conversation with her and seeing if this can be worked out and if you can still trust her.
     
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  11. FreeAgent
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    May 20, 2015
    Sorry to hear that, bro.

    In my opinion, I'd cut things off. She clearly didn't give a f--- about you when she decided to cheat and carry it on. Her telling you wasn't her being sincere, but her being guilty/not wanting to get caught out.

    It's two different situations, but I got hurt time and time again with my ex, especially after we broke up. Don't let yourself be in the same situation.
     
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    May 20, 2015
    Cut that hoe off dude. If they cheat on you once they'll definitely do it again since they have no respect for you
     
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    May 20, 2015
    I may have come off wrong. This particular girlfriend did not cheat prior afaik. Those were past relationships that have gone sour. This one only seems different because she came to ME and admitted the issue. That's why I'm having some difficulty here
     
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    May 20, 2015
    f--- slittin her throat, cut that b------s head off
     
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    May 20, 2015
    its obvious what you need to do: get her an s80 account and we'll roast her
     
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    May 20, 2015
    Wait what if there's an explanation for what she did
     
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