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  1. LasiK
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    LasiK d-mn fine coffee

    Sep 29, 2015
    I met a girl in august 2013, a month before i started grade 12. we hit it off and started dating pretty quickly. fast foward two years and things are great. sex life is great, communication is great, love life is great. we have never had a serious fight the entire time we've been together. lots of laughs and her family made me feel more at home than i've ever felt before.

    she's a few years younger than me, so when I was starting grade 12 she was beginning the 10th. relatively young, but we both seemed to have been thru some s--- and had a mutual understanding of what we wanted out of a relationship with each other.

    she started her senior year of high school at the beginning of the month and that's when things started changing. last night i got a call from her saying she felt as if the relationship was fizzling out. she wants to take a different direction with her life and the relationship was holding her back. completely blindsided me, but i like to think i have a fair understanding of life and respect an individuals desires and needs.

    been going thru a whirlwind of emotions since last night. i felt like she could've been the one i lasted years with due to how everything fell into place so effortlessly. unsure of the direction to take my life from here. i haven't felt this lost since i was 15 and my dad died.
     
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  2. Oldboy
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    Oldboy

    Sep 29, 2015
    make beats now
     
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  3. Cyreides
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    Cyreides gfy

    Sep 29, 2015
    808s & LasiK
     
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  4. lil uzi vert stan
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    lil uzi vert stan

    Sep 29, 2015
    agreed, you have a lot of talent. you should keep pushing yourself, get your name out there.

    and re: breakup, ive always thought everyone needs to go through one bad breakup @LasiK. it matures you, lets you learn and decide what you rly want. this may be cliche, but manage/respect the pain bruh
     
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  5. Mike Tyson
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    Mike Tyson big cuntry's alias

    Sep 29, 2015
    I'm guessing, given your age and when you met, this is your first serious relationship.

    It's probably the last thing you want to hear, but it'll get better with time. It sucks when you get blindsided like that, and if you've got light skin tendencies you start jumping to conclusions right away. But don't. Unless she's worth chasing, you need to take the first few steps in moving on. And as hard as it seems, don't dwell on the "whys" or "whats", just know none of it will matter in the scheme of things.

    The best advice I can give you is that you need to try to be productive with your time. Like @Packman said, immerse yourself in the things you love. The absolute worst thing you can do right now is start blazing and playing video games - start a project, do something, and make it a point to accomplish something 30 days from now.

    Worry about yourself, f--- her. Oh wait, you already did. :dkk: She won't matter in the scheme of things, just remember that and don't let the breakup define you.

    Head up @LasiK
     
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  6. lil uzi vert stan
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    lil uzi vert stan

    Sep 29, 2015
    @Narsh could get laid - he has a good personality and is attractive in that cuddly-teddy-bear kind of way. im assuming hes inexperienced and overly immersed in rap/posting to present himself well to the opposite sex tho. so... yes, a prostitute is in order

    @Jet
     
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  7. LasiK
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    LasiK d-mn fine coffee

    Sep 29, 2015
    First matured break up, that's for sure. I've almost always had girlfriends thru my teens, one break up rocked me hard but I was just a broken kid whose dad died shortly before it happened.

    She'd been acting weird for the past few weeks but I chalked it up to her being back in school and working a new job. It's unexpected because it wasn't something I thought was a problem, but I definitely see where she's coming from. Things were pretty safe/stale the past little while.

    It's gonna be tough to get over. I met her when I was coming off a few really bad years (Dad dying, depression, anxiety disorder, etc) so it felt really f---ing great to have some sort of constant stability in my life. I think that's probably where I f----- up. I lived and breathed through the relationship because I was, for once, happy and satisfied with the way things were going in my life. When I finished high school I sort of fell off the map. I was exhausted with the childish bs I was surrounded by every day and was ready to just coast into a settled life. It was nothing for me to slowly back away from my friends. I was happy and didn't wanna bother with chasing anything else. I think that eventually turned into a weight she had to carry. I can't really blame her for that either, she's a late-teen-aged girl. I've been holding her back from doing the s--- her peers and friends are doing.

    I'm pissed off that she didn't bring it up to me earlier though. She said she tried to push the feelings aside and continue on with the relationship. Had I known the way she was feeling prior to this point we probably could've worked out a solution before it was too late.



    thanks anyone who took the time to read and say a few words. break ups blow!!
     
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  8. Narsh
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    Narsh

    Sep 29, 2015
    at least girls like you m8








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  9. pluto✰
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    pluto✰ where the opioids?

    Sep 29, 2015
    if you think he's cute why didn't you kiss him back
     
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  10. pluto✰
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    pluto✰ where the opioids?

    Sep 29, 2015
    are you a virgin fr? me and @captain awesome gonna put up on a prostitute for u wen I come up to Boston
     
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  11. Radeem
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    Radeem I listen to people smarter than me

    Sep 29, 2015
    Posting a hopsin song in a thread which is literally soaked in sorrow is like giving a gun to a man who has suicidal thoughts.

    wtf man

    Keep your head up Lasik. I'm sure things will get better soon. You just have to do what you love.
     
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  12. LasiK
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    LasiK d-mn fine coffee

    Sep 30, 2015

    i made this beat tape back in 2013 meant to encapsulate that first month or two after meeting my girl. forgot about this s--- until now. im a f---ing simp right now

    dont browse my bandcamp tho all that s--- dated as f---
     
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  13. Charlie Work
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    Charlie Work Level 5 Goblin

    Sep 30, 2015
    Sounds like your first serious relationship. Always tough getting over that one. Better now than finding out post-marriage/pregnancy. If she was 1 in a million, there are 19 more like her in California. Ones you'll meet at an age where they aren't still figuring out who they are as desperately as they are in high school. Until then, focus on yourself. Good luck, bro.
     
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  14. lil uzi vert stan
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    lil uzi vert stan

    Sep 29, 2015
    @Narsh meet me outside centerfolds in 10 minutes. we're gonna fix u
     
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  15. Nori
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    Nori ☺ Deadpool is my deformed bousin☺

    Sep 29, 2015
    He's focused on his rap career
     
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  16. Mike Tyson
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    Mike Tyson big cuntry's alias

    Sep 30, 2015
    Yup, it's definitely not going to happen overnight, take all the time you need buddy.

    A friend of mine is a doctor now, but he did his medical degree outside of the US despite knowing he wanted to eventually practice there. He was in very deep with a girl he met at his uni, and after a summer apart (they both went home to their respective cities for the holidays), she came back and just broke it off with him out of the blue. I had a bunch of long conversations with the guy - he's one of my best friends, someone I consider a brother. And all I could really tell him was to focus the energy on bettering himself, not constantly replaying things and trying to find out "why". Give her a reason to regret the breakup in retrospect. Well anyways, some times you say things to people, and they really take them to heart. That was the case with him.

    He ended up focusing his energy on writing his USMLE (an equivalency exam that international students need to write for a chance to work in the States). After an incredible grind, he ended up scoring in the 99th percentile. By the end of it, nothing about the situation with the girl really mattered.

    Take that story how you want to, but just know that this is the worst you're ever going to feel. It only gets better from here.

    :)

    PS: My friend would eventually match at Cleveland Clinic, the 4th best program for international residents in the United States. He had a fling after that particular breakup, never anything serious. The guy couldn't be happier right now though, life really does move on.
     
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  17. DKC
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    DKC shortygonletmecrush

    Sep 29, 2015
    So how long ago did your girlfriend cheat on you?
     
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  18. Raziel
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    Raziel Ice like Paul Wall but I can't take mine out

    Sep 29, 2015
    Take some time to heal and most importantly love yourself. It's easy to get lost in self pity and doubt. I spent probably 10 years of my life in misery bc of it.
     
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  20. LasiK
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    LasiK d-mn fine coffee

    Sep 30, 2015
    gonna go play hotline bling outside her bedroom window so she knows how i feel
     
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