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  1. DKC
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    DKC shortygonletmecrush

    Oct 10, 2015
    The hardest part about a break up is that, no matter how much you might still care about each other and how mutual the breakup was, you can't be there for each other like that anymore. It's not healthy if you guys want to move on, as it's just going to keep tugging on both of your hearts. Whether she's conscious of it or not, she's looking for emotional validation from a place where she knows she can get it, and you can't give it to her anymore if you want to get over it. Obviously if there was an actual emergency or something you can, that's just being a decent human being. But if she's just feeling down, you can't be her go-to anymore. It's not fair to you for her to have her space to do whatever she wants and then come back to you for emotional validation whenever she's feeling "down."

    I don't know you or your ex and I'm not saying she's doing it on purpose. This isn't about playing games. It's about doing what's right for you and your emotional and mental health.
     
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  2. shahidah
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    shahidah watch me work it JT

    Oct 12, 2015
    From a female perspective,

    You should let that go...she basically broke up with you because she wanted to "have fun" which is the watered down version of "i think we should see other people"

    From the text conversation it seems like she didn't really have anything to talk about, she just wanted to see if you would still respond.
     
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  3. reservoirGod
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    reservoirGod reckless adventurer.

    Oct 9, 2015
    Send her a d-ck pic for old time's sake.
     
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  4. Ordinary Joel
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    Ordinary Joel Happiness begins when selfishness ends

    Oct 9, 2015
    She's doing a Drake.

    That's meant to be your role tho... :ashgray:
     
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  5. ZigZags
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    ZigZags

    Oct 12, 2015
    I don't know you or anything but I read your thread about your breakup whenever you posted it.. And the same exact thing happened to me, I was absolutely devastated, i'm not gonna lie. All the nights I've wanted to message her or waited and waited for her to hit me up and she never really did. When she would it was just saying that she hopes i'm okay.. and that she didnt mean for this to happen(nothing but a lie). There's been times where i've begged her to just call me for 5 minutes of her time.. Because it all happened so fast and i just wanted answers and closure, and she couldnt even do that.. But anyway what im trying to say is that only made things worse.. I realized she left me for someone else so she's got the attention/happiness that she needs for now, and it'd be completely useless to even waste my energy/time on her anymore.. No matter how close we were or how much time we used to spend together. I know what you're going through bro, but just don't pay her any attention. Just ignore those texts, and do you. It'll make you a better person in the end whenever you've focused all that time and energy on bettering yourself, instead of trying to make someone miss you.
     
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  6. LasiK
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    LasiK d-mn fine coffee

    Oct 10, 2015
    @Nori Forgot that song existed. I had a mixtape of simp a--- Drake songs like that on my iPod once.

    @BigCountry no text back. thinking she definitely was looking for the validation. I won't reply next time.
     
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  7. pluto✰
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    pluto✰ where the opioids?

    Oct 9, 2015
    she misses you. but don't pry it out of her. let her tell you/come to that conclusion on her own.

    she'll text you back within the hour
     
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  8. DaGhost30
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    DaGhost30

    Oct 9, 2015
    dont text or call her back bro. you said you were there if she needed to talk. time to let her make the next move. just dont get desperate and call her or text her again. if you dont hear back from her tonight just break out the lotion and go on xxxnx or something
     
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