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Serious Ex texted me late night

Started by LasiK, Oct 9, 2015, in Life Add to Reading List

  1. LasiK
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    LasiK d-mn fine coffee

    Oct 9, 2015
    so my ex broke it off abruptly a little less than two weeks ago (https://forum.sectioneighty.com/lasik-break-up-2015.t43434/) we've sort of kept contact, usually just a quick "you holding up?" every couple of days. We reply out of courtesy to each other, and out of genuine concern of eachothers well being. we still care about each other.

    She been hitting a few parties since we split up. Wanting attention, getting it from (and probably linking up with) a bunch of lames looking for a f---. Snap stories of her hitting bongs with skinny high school stoners who think A$AP Rocky is the GOAT. It happens, no big deal there. I expected it.

    We haven't really spoken much about the break up. She said she needed some space so I've been doing what I can to respect that. She texted me tonight this(she was partying last night)

    10:55 Cortney: Im having a bad night
    11: 01 Me: Hey, what's going on?
    11:07 Cortney: Nothing is going on
    11:07 Cortney: Im more down than usual
    11: 08 Me: Lately or just tonight?
    11:10 Me: You can talk about it if you want to.

    been 25 min and no reply. read receipts are off. any ideas what she wants?
     
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  2. reservoirGod
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    reservoirGod reckless adventurer.

    Oct 9, 2015
    Send her a d-ck pic for old time's sake.
     
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  3. DaGhost30
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    DaGhost30

    Oct 9, 2015
    dont text or call her back bro. you said you were there if she needed to talk. time to let her make the next move. just dont get desperate and call her or text her again. if you dont hear back from her tonight just break out the lotion and go on xxxnx or something
     
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  4. pluto✰
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    pluto✰ where the opioids?

    Oct 9, 2015
    she misses you. but don't pry it out of her. let her tell you/come to that conclusion on her own.

    she'll text you back within the hour
     
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  5. Ordinary Joel
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    Ordinary Joel Happiness begins when selfishness ends

    Oct 9, 2015
    She's doing a Drake.

    That's meant to be your role tho... :ashgray:
     
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  6. DetroitDGAF
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    DetroitDGAF Locked in Mariah’s Wine Cellar

    Oct 9, 2015
    shes lonely
     
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  7. DKC
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    DKC shortygonletmecrush

    Oct 10, 2015
    The hardest part about a break up is that, no matter how much you might still care about each other and how mutual the breakup was, you can't be there for each other like that anymore. It's not healthy if you guys want to move on, as it's just going to keep tugging on both of your hearts. Whether she's conscious of it or not, she's looking for emotional validation from a place where she knows she can get it, and you can't give it to her anymore if you want to get over it. Obviously if there was an actual emergency or something you can, that's just being a decent human being. But if she's just feeling down, you can't be her go-to anymore. It's not fair to you for her to have her space to do whatever she wants and then come back to you for emotional validation whenever she's feeling "down."

    I don't know you or your ex and I'm not saying she's doing it on purpose. This isn't about playing games. It's about doing what's right for you and your emotional and mental health.
     
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  8. Nori
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    Nori ☺ Deadpool is my deformed bousin☺

    Oct 10, 2015
    :mjcry:
     
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  9. LasiK
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    LasiK d-mn fine coffee

    Oct 10, 2015
    @Nori Forgot that song existed. I had a mixtape of simp a--- Drake songs like that on my iPod once.

    @BigCountry no text back. thinking she definitely was looking for the validation. I won't reply next time.
     
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  10. Alchemist34
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    Alchemist34 DO MY HEAD

    Oct 12, 2015
    Yeah just drop it
     
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  11. Disclosure
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    Disclosure R&B Stan

    Oct 12, 2015
    She is looking for attention an validation, don't fall for that s---, once she finds a guy who pays the slightest bit of attention to her needs she will drop you like a bad habit and all that 'comforting' and time you spent helping her will mean nothing. f--- her, she's your ex, stop talking to her and 'being there for her'. Move on.
     
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  12. Michael Myers
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    Oct 12, 2015
    This exactly, been there done that. If she feels good she'll ignore you, when she feels bad she knows you'll be there for he. I don't know her so I might be wrong but don't let her use you man
     
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  13. Immy
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    Immy yikes

    Oct 12, 2015
    ANAL IS RIGHT


    thats what she said
     
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  14. shahidah
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    shahidah watch me work it JT

    Oct 12, 2015
    From a female perspective,

    You should let that go...she basically broke up with you because she wanted to "have fun" which is the watered down version of "i think we should see other people"

    From the text conversation it seems like she didn't really have anything to talk about, she just wanted to see if you would still respond.
     
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  15. ZigZags
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    ZigZags

    Oct 12, 2015
    I don't know you or anything but I read your thread about your breakup whenever you posted it.. And the same exact thing happened to me, I was absolutely devastated, i'm not gonna lie. All the nights I've wanted to message her or waited and waited for her to hit me up and she never really did. When she would it was just saying that she hopes i'm okay.. and that she didnt mean for this to happen(nothing but a lie). There's been times where i've begged her to just call me for 5 minutes of her time.. Because it all happened so fast and i just wanted answers and closure, and she couldnt even do that.. But anyway what im trying to say is that only made things worse.. I realized she left me for someone else so she's got the attention/happiness that she needs for now, and it'd be completely useless to even waste my energy/time on her anymore.. No matter how close we were or how much time we used to spend together. I know what you're going through bro, but just don't pay her any attention. Just ignore those texts, and do you. It'll make you a better person in the end whenever you've focused all that time and energy on bettering yourself, instead of trying to make someone miss you.
     
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    Oldboy

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  17. Lamont
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    Lamont

    Oct 12, 2015
    Nah I say just leave her be and even if she contacts you further, don't reply..Yung Lasik is better than that. Girls like to play little mind games or do a little fishing to see if you will take her bait, I don't think (dont really know exactly because i'm not you) that kind of relationship is beneficial for you or her.

    other fish in the sea brudduh
     
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  18. LasiK
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    LasiK d-mn fine coffee

    Oct 13, 2015
    @BigCountry @Lamont @dank zig-zags420 etc.

    Funny turn of events. Before we split up I applied to work full time for a business group that has a dozen or so stores in our local Airport, retail kiosks and stuff. I got a call from them yesterday asking if I could come in for an interview tomorrow. I'm eager for a job so I tell them of course. I go meet the manager, we click, and the interview goes by exceptionally. She said I'll hear back from them later this week (though I'm 90% sure I landed the job anyway).

    Except my ex works (part time) in the retail section of the airport too. Can I accept this job???? Obviously a full time job for myself is more important than my ex being comfortable at her part time job cuz shes still in high school, but I can't help but feel like if I take the job it'll just be seem f---ing weird and she might think I found a job there to be around her or something :emoji_expressionless:
     
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  19. Creation
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    Creation By Any Means

    Oct 13, 2015
    I can tell you from experience what is going to happen.

    She wants the ''Free Life'', doing all the stupid s--- in the world, but as soon as things goes down hill & none of her so called friends will listen to her, she'll try trick you into getting back with her. ive been there & thats what it feels like is happening to you man.
     
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  20. Chad Warden
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    Chad Warden As Ballin As Possible

    Oct 13, 2015
    Sounds like she's about that bs. Maybe her new relationship isn't going well and she wants to feel like she's desirable so she texts her thirsty ex and see's you jumping for her...smh.

    It's not as bad as Chad's making it sound but you know what he means.
     
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