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  1. Mimi
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    Mimi the art of doing nothing

    Oct 11, 2015
    I'm sitting by the bed of my grandmother as she loses her battle against cancer. I have been looking after her for a few weeks/months now and it's given me the chance to spend more time with her than I have in the last 6yrs combined. I have told her all that I can think to say yet I worry that once she is gone I will be flooded with thoughts of things that should have been said.


    To those of you that have lost somebody close, is there anything you wish you had the chance to say while you still had the time?



    R.I.P to all of you who have lost a loved one, I hope you are okay :emoji_heart:
     
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    Fire Squad Boss Don Biggavel

    Oct 12, 2015
    Lost my best friend last month, he was battling brain cancer for awhile and despite a lot of valiant efforts in keeping up hope it was unfortunately not meant to be. As human beings we always look for warmth and compassion so just being around your loved ones and keeping them company through those difficult moments will mean a lot. Always remember the good times and memories they provided us. Sorry to hear about your situation as well as everyone else's losses.
     
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    Rebel★Che I'm The Fat Black Girl Half of the Ying Yang!

    Oct 12, 2015
    My grandma died of cancer 4 years ago. I too was at her bedside but it was the last time she was alert. I couldn't stay though, as I had to go to work, so all I told her before I left was that I loved her. And for the last time I heard her say "I love you too."

    I hold that memory near to my heart. Sometimes, just telling them you love them is best, I was glad I even had the chance to say anything to her, and I'm glad I choose that to tell her.
     
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  4. Ordinary Joel
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    Ordinary Joel Happiness begins when selfishness ends

    Oct 11, 2015
    One of my moments (wouldn't call it regret) was the realisation that I hadn't spend enough time/didn't make enough time with a close friend of mine before he suddenly past away. I know it isn't the same sort of scenario that you're facing but I'm sure your grandmother is happy and feels proud of her granddaughter during this last stage of her life.

    So really I don't have any advice, suggestions but to just keep doing what you're doing. Any regret that you feel when you realise you couldn't say this or that will only be fleeting in the grand scheme of things.
     
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