Jan 31, 2016 f---.. what am I supposed to tell her over the phone? Doesn't seem like a great medium for professing romantic feelings. And you guys don't think she'll be more likely to reject me based on the fact that we'd have to be long-distance for half a year?
Jan 31, 2016 not only is half a year too long to wait to do this but i can tell from reading the way you're posting that you're going to build it up in your head to some big romanticized climax before you do it which is only going to make it worse if she says no. just call her up and get it over with.
Jan 31, 2016 Gonna agree with @theg, be up front or just forget it. You're a in a real tricky situation. With the time you are away now it gives her ample opportunity to meet somebody else and after coming out of a LDR what she probably wants more than anything is for someone that can be there for her physically. Being that you have known her for a while might work in your favour but to have just had a relationship where she was apart from her S/O to then jumping in to another like that doesnt sound ideal.
Jan 31, 2016 i mean, just call her and talk it out man. i cant like write a transcript for you to read to her, and i don't know you or her at all so idk how its gonna go down, but just open a dialogue and discuss it. just tell her. if she doesn't like you back in that way then it's game over and you gotta just move on. if she doesn't want a long distance relationship there's literally nothing you can do about it. if the ONLY problem is that you're living away then maybe you'll have a shot when you get back. you have nothing atm though other than you being hung up on her in a different country while shes out hooking up on the reg, not even knowing your thoughts
Jan 31, 2016 True... I could see in a better-case scenario her telling me that she wouldn't necessarily rule out becoming more than friends once I get back, but keeping the relationship "open" until then. I wouldn't necessarily like the idea, but if it meant she reciprocated my feelings at all then it would be a plus... right?
Jan 31, 2016 She probably doesn't want a long-distance relationship but that doesn't necessarily mean she wouldn't want a relationship with me if I were there in person. Being optimistic of course.
Jan 31, 2016 you're seriously overanalyzing it man. you got two options and its this simple a) call her up (or skype or w/e if you wanna be face to face) or b) forget her and the longer you wait the worse your chances are with her
Jan 31, 2016 I give you a compliment, and you gave this reaction - so you obviously do fa---- And also, the now or nothing approach isn't safe at all and just gives him more room to get hurt Especially over the phone smh He should just wait until he gets back, figure out if he actually has a chance, and quit if she's banging every dude within a 5 mile radius and not interested
Jan 31, 2016 holy s--- you f---ing beta you are literally giving him the worst advice in the whole thread. he's a grown a--- man i think he'll deal if he gets rejected. you don't need to sit around and anticipate how to deal with your feelings if she says no. be up front and direct. "now or nothing" is literally the only way to do it. you have no idea what you're talking about lmao and you're outting yourself as clueless rn.
Jan 31, 2016 This is silly. Waiting means she will find someone else and will move on giving him absolutely no chance. And I'd recommend skype calling. To talk face to face in some sense makes things a lot easier
Jan 31, 2016 also im not a female but i have to imagine its offputting for a guy to say to you "ive been secretly crushing on you for x amount of time but i didnt tell you until now". between MS saying just wait and "drop hints"...yea you should straight up ignore anything he's said in this thread OP
Jan 31, 2016 People who ask for dating advice on a forum in the first place usually care more than others if they get rejected and are using this to prevent that at all costs It's OP's best interest I'm looking out for But I see your point @Nori told me to agree with you
Jan 31, 2016 I'll just say this, I'm in an LDR now. If my bf and I were to break up there is no way in f---ing h--- I would consider another. No way. You have to be super special to get somebody to consider doing this s---.
Jan 31, 2016 OP's best interest is being a man and either getting in the relationship he wants or getting rejected and moving on
