May 7, 2016

Leave her, ignore her, never look back.

She is toxic for you, you are toxic for her. The relationship ran it's course. You don't have kids with her (I'm guessing), so there is no longer a reason to continue this "relationship" or friendship that you think you both have.

The reason you think you are in love with her is because you aren't exploring your options, and you're not actively looking for better. Nothing that you explained about her has me believing she is good for you and vice versa.

Find other people, get out. There are multiple outlets you can find and meet women with, so do it.

It is not good for you.

Also, if you are worried about drinking and drugs, find either AA/NA meetings locally, they're everywhere and accept any and everybody, and if you have good health insurance, find a therapist. If you are deep into the drugs/alcohol, and need detox, go to the closest hospital and check into the ER, and they will, hopefully, set you up with a detox program, and start you on the protocol.

 

May 7, 2016

Need to let her go and move on. Need to change the people, places, and the things you do. I had to quit my job that I had over 11 years and change everything just to get to where I'm at right now. It wasn't easy and I went through h--- with with-drawls from drugs and medication I was on since I was 15. I do not regret any decisions I have made since Ive been sober 78 days. This week has been the toughest of my life though with my dad passing away unexpected and I seen the whole thing. Be grateful for what you have. Life is hard.

 

May 7, 2016

I feel like you aren't telling us everything here. It takes a lot for a woman to punch and push a man down the stairs. Not trying to generalize here but it's not in their nature, usually. If something so simple as mentioning a celebrity's life causes that sort of reaction, the relationship has a fatal flaw, a hole in the boat. If you are getting dragged into her anger and coping with her world with drinking, I honestly suggest spending some time alone. Figure things out for yourself. Try to look at your relationship from a third person perspective, as an onlooker. Now, add that relationship to your plans for the future. Do you think it's best for your future plans that you have her along for the ride?

 

May 7, 2016

Love is tricky as h--- man, especially when you and your companion put in a lot of effort into it and when nostalgia blinds you. However the bigger problem to solve would have to be sobering up and finding a different way to block out those emotions dude the long-term damage that comes along is just not worth it.

I used to be a heavy smoker and drinker since it honestly helped cope with the stress that came from school and losing people I grew up with. It might have helped calm me down at the time but then I started picking up some bad & unhealthy habits that took me until recent times to fight back. It will require dedication and some big changes but if you feel things are bad now theres no reason to keep it going. Hope things turn out for the better and further people can offer some advice here, and even try searching for help if you feel comfortable enough.

 

May 7, 2016

Addiction problems yes....Relationship problems no

 

May 7, 2016

@STL2016FUB could probably give you advice on stopping your addictions.

Aside from that I'm not sure what advice to give man.