Feb 1, 2017

That is the most d-ck way to respond to this situation

 

Feb 1, 2017

 

Feb 1, 2017

I reckon you should make it a priority for yourself if you can.

Life gets busy but your mental and emotional well-being should be looked after. That goes for everyone really.

 

Feb 1, 2017

sounds like the intro to a great p--- scene

 

Feb 1, 2017

Do go on.

 

Feb 1, 2017

Idk what is real anymore

 

Feb 1, 2017

depends how u look at the situation. your high testosterone level and overall alpha male aura was strong enough to net you a hottie at age 8. incredible work mate, slay p----!

 

Feb 1, 2017

I'm not sure if talking about something this personal on a forum is really a good idea. A therapist or some of your closest confidantes would be better but that's just me I guess.

But everyone has different types of outlets so I dunno.

 

Feb 1, 2017

Sexually assaulted, molested, r---d, etc., whatever you want to call what happened...

I've been wanting to make this thread for awhile but I keep forgetting/procrastinating when I remember.

Anyway, thread idea came to mind because I've sort've been in a situation before where some s--- went down that absolutely should not have, and it's something I've never really told anyone about.

FAIR WARNING: this is rly personal s---, and I'm probably way over-sharing here:

I was in a really bad spot a couple years ago (this all happened in Feb of 2015). My dad had kicked me out of his house at 6AM the day it happened, and I was now homeless, and walking around in the dead of winter, with 2 feet of snow on the ground, carrying around a duffel bag full of my clothes in a town I didn't know and where I also didn't know anyone except a couple people I'd talked to online.

I was freaking out, and had no idea what to do or where to go, so I googled and found a couple homeless shelters, but one was closed at the time and the other wouldn't take me in because of some bs about me not being a resident in the city long enough. So I was pretty screwed. I walked until like 2 or 3 in the afternoon, trying desperately to get ahold of someone on my phone that could come get me or something.

So I messaged this one guy I'd been talking to for a couple weeks on a dating app and asked if he could come pick me up so I could try and get out of the cold for at least a minute. He agrees, and finally comes to get me and takes me back to his apartment where he and his boyfriend lived. He lets me use his shower and throws my clothes in the dryer and gives me something else to wear while I wait on those, since they were soaked from being outside all morning/afternoon. Him, his boyfriend and I proceed to talk about things, and then his boyfriend leaves to go to work.

Now, a little backstory on this guy, we'd talked online and I'd gotten to know a little bit about him, and while I initially was interested in something more than just friends, I turned anything like that down once he told me he had a boyfriend, though he was really persistent about it before he finally let us fooling around go.

Back to the story, once his boyfriend leaves, he can tell I'm still reaaaally f---ing upset and freaking out. I couldn't stop shaking, either from the cold or my anxiety or both, it wouldn't f---ing stop. So he tried to comfort me and so we talked and he offered some ideas on what to do, which helped slightly. All was well and good at that point.

And then he starts getting a little too close, which I don't even really think I thought much about until after it all happened. But then it escalates, and he's rubbing my back and shoulders, and me being the naive person I am with guys, I think nothing of that either, though I'm starting to get really uncomfortable. Then he asks me to take my shirt off so he can give me a real massage.

Now, seriously, I cannot stress this enough, I had made it very f---ing clear I didn't want to fool around with him before we actually met, and his boyfriend literally just left for work like a half hour ago at this point, and I'm in the middle of a shitstorm with my life because I'm f---ing homeless in a strange place -as of that very morning- and still in shock over it all. And it's just in that moment that it's now dawning on me what he's doing, and he's being extremely persistent about it even though it was obvious I was uncomfortable.

So I feel like in that moment, like, s---, if I don't let him do what he wants, is he gonna kick me back out into the cold? Was this the only reason he even picked me up in the first place? What am I suppose to do right now when I've already told I didn't want to do anything? And eventually, I talk myself down and just convince myself that it's nothing more than a massage, and he's just being nice because I'm freaking out and worrying up a storm and shaking... and so he takes my shirt off and sets me in front of him on the couch and goes to work on my back. Then he gets oil out to rub my back with, which was weird. And then after that, he gets me laying down on my back on the couch so he could massage my chest... I'm still visibly uncomfortable during all of this, and I tell him I don't really think we should do this, but he insists. And then he wants to do my legs, and so my pants come off.

So to recap, I'm just laying in this guy I barely knows apartment, laying on my back on his couch in my underwear covered in massage oil after his boyfriend just left, and all less than 12 hours after I became homeless and walked around in snow all day, and I'm shaking and worried and don't want to do anything with him, and he just keeps putting the moves on more and more.

Eventually he just leads a silent shaking me into his room and picks me up and puts me on his bed to "cuddle" because I'm so cold. But then he's getting handsy, and asks if he can see it. I tell him again, I really don't want to do anything and we shouldn't anyways because you have a f---ing boyfriend ffs... but he just insists and I ended up giving in and one thing lead to another and yeah, we ended up fooling around.

After all is said and done, I'm shaking more than ever and still super anxious about everything, and so he helps me figure out a semi-plan after all for what I'm going to do and he drops me off where I needed to be. And I didn't really think about it much that day, because honestly I had enough going on, and I think I was just trying to not think about it tbh. But it's coming to mind a lot lately and I feel guilty and bad for the whole thing happened, like it was all my fault and s---. And I helped him cheat and blah blah more self loathing bs. And I also realized that since that day, when I'm nervous I f---ing shake now, and I'm especially antsy with guys/dating, and I really shy away from attempts at fooling around when I'm dating someone. I just, feel uncomfortable with the idea of sex now for the most part, like I don't trust guys enough now to do anything with them unless I really really get to know them and like them THAT much, which is extremely rare.

But yeah, thanks for reading my rambling sob story, I just wanted to talk to someone about this somehow. You can share you stories if you want, Idk how many of you will actually have one though but yeah.

 

Feb 1, 2017

its just ridiculous that guys can be persistent when it comes to sex and that guy was a total tool he took advantage of your situation which is never a good thing to do. You were vulnerable and put in a compromising position. I think it would be good to talk to someone since it is affecting your mental health.

i was in a situation where a group of friends and I decided to go hang out with some guys (regular college s---) one of my friends was talking to a guy and he invited some more friends over..... nothing crazy we were just chilling in his dorm drinking and listening to music and dancing. After a couple of shots we were all pretty f----- up and decided to stay over since the shuttle bus stopped running and the room we were staying in we were comfortable with the 2 guys who lived there. So halfway through the night i pass out in the bathroom over the toilet and the guy who my friend was talking to picked me up and put me in his bed with one of my friends (my roommate) while he slept on the floor. i pass out again next to my roommate and some time after that I slowly wake up to someone running their hands on my thighs. im halfway sleep so i dont think too much about it and i assume that its my roommate f---in with me cause we do that sometimes but then the hand starts moving closer to my vag and hes going inside my pants. I make a comment to my friend like "girl what you doin? why you touchin me" or something along those lines and shes like what r you talkin about im not doing anything. And thats when i realize it wasnt my roommate so i wake all the way up and im now yelling like WHO TF IS TOUCHING ME?! and it turns out one of the guys friends had snuck in the bed next to me and was doing it. So i start yelling cursing him out and wake everybody up. Im pretty shaken up at this point like i couldnt believe what was happening. the guy whose room it was kicks the dude out and just leaves us girls by ourselves... But yeah i pretty much stopped partying after that. I just was fortunate that i had sobered up around that time to be able to stop the guy from violating me. But its crazy because a lot of my friends say theyve been in a similar situation.

But if its affecting you like that i think you should go talk to someone as they can help you understand what youre feeling about the situation.

 

Feb 1, 2017

op couldn't have read any more like an erotica

 

Feb 1, 2017

forums f---in sex obsessed today

 

Feb 1, 2017

u reminded me of that episode of it's always sunny where mac is upset he didn't get molested by the gym teacher

 

Feb 1, 2017

No.

 

Feb 1, 2017

Wow you're actually a fa----
All this time I thought it was just a troll gimmick you got me good

 

Feb 1, 2017

Yes I was sexually assaulted back in my senior year of highschool by a ugly girl. I would have never f----- her if I were sober. I had taken a lot of Xanax that night and I woke up the next morning with a nut filled condom on my d-ck and this naked chick beside me. A lot of people made fun of me because of it but that b---- took advantage of me when I was f----- and didn't comprehend what was going on

 

Feb 1, 2017

This might sound f----- up but I was molested by my babysitter when I was 8. Not complaining though since I had a kiddish crush on her and sort of enjoyed it, but I guess when I think about it I was taken advantage of

 

Feb 2, 2017

@Cyreides massive hugs. Please don't feel guilty or bad.
He, somebody who has a partner and is still on dating apps, was/is obviously a f---ing prick and knew you were in a vulnerable position. I hope some karma gets him.




I've never been sexually assaulted but certainly felt sexually violated after my first gyno appointment. I don't know if I would have felt different if it was a different doctor, but d---..
next one I go to will be female

 

Feb 1, 2017

I'm doing a psychology degree atm just talk to me instead of spending money and I can count it as work experience