Been together 6 years Now it's over.. What to do now

Started by killakush, Mar 15, 2015, in Life Add to Reading List

  1. killakush
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    Mar 15, 2015
    So me & now ex just broke up because she's appparrently no longer in love with me..
    It hurts like h---
    a couple months ago we both lost our jobs
    We live in maine so good luck finding a job in winter
    In this f---ing state..
    So shortly after she says she's no longer in love
    She wanted to try an open relationship
    I said fine I love you so if that's what you need to do
    To figure s--- out fine..
    One month later it's going okay..
    She starts talking to this Mexican from Miami
    They are not together but it's pretty serious I think...
    We are now over but we are still living together
    Because of obvious money issues & we are still very good friends..

    My question is should I just let her go? Should I fight for her? Should I murder the Mexican? I've never been through this this was supposed to be forever 6 years is a long time.. I just need advice.. Thanks in advance..
     
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  2. Loyalty
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    Loyalty we go hard on earth

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  3. redsoxx
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    redsoxx "What's my favorite ring? The next one."-TB12

    Mar 15, 2015
    You sound whipped as a muhfucka
     
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  4. killakush
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    I'm not whipped bro.. Its just when you have tried to work s--- out for so long.. You've tried everything I thought the open relationship thing would make us stronger but I was wrong...
     
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  5. reservoirGod
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    reservoirGod reckless adventurer.

    Mar 15, 2015
    Get on tinder and go somewhere else for work. This is awesome for you. Congratulations.
     
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  6. Worm
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    Mar 15, 2015
    Yeah, letting your girl b--- other people is proven to strengthen relationships. I don't know why it's not working yet.
     
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  7. Fazers
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    Mar 15, 2015
    write her e-mails and text messages proving how much you love her, then if she doesn't respond back to them

    kidnap both of them, put them in your trunk, drive off a bridge and k--- them and yourself
     
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  8. killakush
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    Mar 15, 2015
    It was just talking to people online. We both agreed we wouldn't sleep with anybody..
     
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  10. killakush
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    I've been using that okcupid & plenty of fish.. Havnt had much luck with tinder yet tho..
     
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    k--- that burrito muthafucka
     
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  12. 6ixgawd
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    Mar 15, 2015
    leak her nudes

    in this thread
     
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  13. LasiK
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    LasiK d-mn fine coffee

    Mar 15, 2015
    Act like you're moving on dude. She won't wanna stay with you if you're simping around listening to drake all day. Hang out with some friends and be vague about who you're with, even if it's bs and you're actually just with your friends. Go out and do s---...without her. Don't spend every minute of your day frowning over her. Is it realistic that you could get back together? Probably, but it's realistic that you won't either. Start learning to balance a single lifestyle without her. If she still cares enough to notice that you're doing your own thing, you could have a chance.

    And maybe do some self evaluation while you're at it. You've probably changed since you lost your job and s---.

    At the end of the day, try and understand that the concept of love is an idea. If you're with someone who makes you happy and you can coexist together, that's great. If not, look for someone else. Regardless of what happens around you in your life, be responsible for yourself. You're your own individual person with a mind just as complex as the next person, but at the end of the day the only guaranteed being in your life is yourself. Explore your hobbies or interests. You need to learn how to enjoy being by yourself without being lonely. I've been with my girlfriend for what will be two years this Summer. We initially had some problems at the start of our relationship (1-2 months in), but we've worked those out and have been sympatico ever since. I love her, she's an incredible person, and it's been really nice to share the past year and more with someone who I'm in tune with, but I wouldn't hesitate to move on if/when things start to get bad. Take care of yourself without relying on others. I lost my Dad when I was 15 and it blew me away. I still struggle with the loss of a Dad sometimes, but I've learned that even without the people you rely on in life, it still goes on without them.

    My two cents. Good luck with it dude!!
     
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  14. killakush
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    Naw, that's f----- up
     
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    breaking your heart is even more f----- up

    sounds evenn to me
     
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  16. Red Rum
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    Mar 15, 2015
    Since you still live together bring another chick over and b--- her while the ex is home.
     
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  17. killakush
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    Mar 15, 2015
    Thanks bro best advice I've gotten so far even from friends & family..
     
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    Mar 15, 2015
    thats like the deepest s--- I ever read on the internet brah

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  19. Ryan
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    Mar 15, 2015
    Have to agree that it sounds like you are handling things like a p----. Listen to @LasiK and move the f--- on. You won't get anywhere if you drag out the next year or two waiting for this b---- to come around. Move out and start a new life
     
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  20. JFK
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    JFK Bleach on my t-shirt

    Mar 15, 2015
    Not sure how serious OP is, but I'll entertain myself

    Why are you
    typing like this

    Why the f--- does that matter? Companies are hiring whether it's cold or not. There are currently 10,000+ jobs available in Maine.

    I see why she broke up with your lazy a---.

    Open relationships never work. You should have ended it and moved on at that moment.

    Doesn't matter how serious they are. She's f---ing (or thinking about f---ing) another guy. Move on.

    HOW are you still good friends? Grab your belongings and move out. Find a different roommate.

    Six year IS a long time. Women get bored. You have to hold their attention. You have absolutely nothing to offer her with no job and a sorry/needy attitude.

    All you can do is work on yourself. Change your attitude. Focus on fitness. Get a hobby. You don't need her.

    And, for the love of god, get a job.
     
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