Aug 13, 2017 I honestly don't know if this thread was ever made but I would like to know where this topic stands? Does this affect you personally or anyone around you? I can step forward and say this affects me due to the ways my father treats me and my mother. I see it as such a coward thing to do. Stressed out and decide to let it out on the people you make "commitments" to? I'm turning 17 in a couple months and this personally still impacts my self confidence but I am not a person to let their guard down. I will set my foot if I have to especially how my father is acting and my age I am able to stand up for not only my I but for my mother and siblings as well. Regardless how do you think this impacts the mental star of a child? Do you believe this a major problem towards suicide and/or depression? Please keep it serious.
Aug 13, 2017 Also is it okay to even be a little bit abusive? As you spank them or abuse them physically?
Aug 14, 2017 I got a strict mum but it's more so cultural and because I have a disability that she feels like it's an obligation to protect/put me in cotton wool sometimes. Gotta roll with it in my case.
Aug 14, 2017 Raised by Peruvian/Mexian grandparents so I was defintley a product of strict parenting. I obviously didn't like it as a kid but I think it was defintley beneficial to me in the long run. Sounds like to me you're describing something a bit more serious than just "strict parenting."
Aug 14, 2017 theres a balance, out of my friends, the one who had the strictest parents ended up with the worst life skills.
Aug 14, 2017 My parents are far from strict. I've always thought having strict parents can be good or bad depending on what. I knew people that have really protective parents that really dont let them experience the real world. But theres some that could also put their children on the right path.
Aug 14, 2017 My parents were strict for the most part, but they were lax on some things. Up until I was around 13 or so I got my a--- beat and caught all types of backhands. They held me to a higher standard and I'm glad they did.
Aug 14, 2017 The good with strict parents is that they keep you grounded and humble, passing on their values and morals. The bad with strict parents is the over-protectiveness and curtailing of independent growth if they don't let go as soon as their children grow into adults. Of course though it's always a case by case basis.
Aug 14, 2017 Semi strict Moms an on again off again Christian and her strictness varied over the years. Dad has never been as strict but then again I never lived with him fully aside from when my parents were still married.
Aug 14, 2017 I don't think being over-protective always correlates to being strict. My parents dared me to do things all the time, you get to a point if you're stupid enough to try your parents or do something they dared you to do, don't be surprised if you get f----- up by them or someone else.
Aug 14, 2017 Depends on what aspects I guess. Imo most important is that they try to raise you as a good person and not a scumbag (as far as they can of course). My parents were not so strict when it comes to things like going out, curfews etc though.
Aug 14, 2017 @Raxofa I don't fully understand the OP when you talk about how your father treats you and your mother.
Aug 14, 2017 My mom was quite strict when i was younger, but now that im older she really isn't as we have this mutual trust. Also to op, theres quite a difference between a strict parent and a narcissistic person. Your case could possibly be the latter
Aug 14, 2017 for example the other day my father went ape s--- when i was driving my uncles truck but my uncle was right next to me, so when my sister asked if she can go to a party with me he started yelling at my mom and s--- then to us saying all we do is go out and do this and that. I understand some of it is to protect us but a simple no or stop would've been understandable. Also a few weeks back he made my mom cry because me and my sister went to the movies with a couple friends? He's just a b---- in my opinion because i don't find a reason why he had to make my mom breakdown for us to go watch a film? we even asked him a few days before?
